A question about...growing up...?

I found my fella after years of dating and several broken hearts (all mine!). My best advice is to go and find things that you like to do. If you are doing what you enjoy then the fellas that cross your path are more likely to enjoy those same things. It sounds like you have some ideals. Stick to them and add as you see fit. Sometimes it is hard to find someone when you are picky. But at least the picky ones get what they want. :)